Rediscovering Connection: A Guide to Starting New Friendships as an Adult

Embarking on the journey of making new friends as an adult can be both exciting and scary. While childhood friendships often seemed to form effortlessly, the dynamics change as we grow older. How to make friends as an adult is a concern that many clients share with me. So in this blog post, we'll explore practical tips and strategies to help you start and nurture new connections, creating meaningful friendships as an adult.

Be Open to New Experiences:

The first step in making new friends as an adult is to be open to new experiences. Attend social events, join clubs or groups related to your interests, and explore activities that align with your passions. The more diverse your experiences, the greater the likelihood of meeting people with similar interests. Many adults fall into a rhythm of work home, work, home. Maybe some add in a gym visit or grocery shopping. But a lot of people forget the importance of novel experiences. As a kid we do this naturally, since there are so many new things to discover. However, despite the age, new experiences are always important.

Embrace Vulnerability:

Vulnerability is the foundation of building authentic connections. Share a bit about yourself, your experiences, and your aspirations. Opening up allows others to see the real you and creates a foundation for deeper connections. I usually suggest to test the waters with vulnerability. Share a bit and see how your new friend handles it. It goes well? Share a bit more. Try it out, it feels great!

Initiate Conversations:

Don't be afraid to take the initiative in starting conversations. Whether it's at a networking event, a social gathering, or even in a casual setting like a coffee shop, a simple "hello" can be the start to meaningful connections. Be genuinely curious about others, and ask open-ended questions to encourage dialogue. Don’t wait for someone else to get the ball rolling, that day may never come. Maybe they are waiting for you to say something first, so jump in and get started!

Use Online Platforms:

In the digital age, online platforms can be valuable tools for making new friends. Join local community groups on social media, participate in forums related to your hobbies, or use friend-making apps. Online platforms can serve as an initial bridge to connect with like-minded individuals. Plus, talking through a screen can feel less intimidating at first.

Attend Networking Events:

Networking events aren't just for professional connections. Attend social and community gatherings where you can meet new people. Whether it's a neighborhood meet-up, a community workshop, or a local event, these settings provide opportunities to connect with others.

Take Classes or Workshops:

Enroll in classes or workshops that align with your interests. Whether it's a cooking class, art workshop, martial arts, or a language course, these environments create a shared experience and a natural context for forming friendships. An important caveat to this, is that you should go on a regular basis. Seeing the same people week in and week out, can help to make it easier to build a connection.

Be a Good Listener:

Building friendships involves more than talking about yourself; it's also about being a good listener. Show genuine interest in others, pay attention to their stories, and ask follow-up questions. Active listening is a key component of creating connections.

Follow Up:

After meeting someone new, don't hesitate to follow up. Send a friendly message sharing how you enjoyed the conversation or suggesting a future get-together. Taking the initiative in follow-up communication reinforces your interest in building a friendship. This is a small step to move an acquaintance into a friend.

Attend Meet-ups:

Many cities have meet-ups and events designed specifically for people looking to make new friends. Attend these gatherings to connect with people who are also seeking new friendships.

Be Patient:

Friendships take time to develop, and not every connection will result in a deep bond. Be patient and allow relationships to unfold naturally. It's okay to have casual acquaintances while you explore those connections that resonate more deeply.

Conclusion:

Making new friends as an adult is a rewarding endeavor that requires a combination of openness, initiative, and patience. By embracing new experiences, being vulnerable, and actively seeking connections, you'll create opportunities to foster meaningful friendships. Remember, the journey of friendship is ongoing, and each new connection adds richness and depth to the tapestry of your life. So, step out of your comfort zone, be open to the possibilities, and let the adventure of making new friends as an adult begin.

-Brittany